Who this is for
Who this guide is for.
This guide is about the difference between contact and connection. Here is who it suits, who it does not, and who you will be talking to.
It is for you if
- You have people around you, and you cannot reach them
- You have a partner, children, colleagues and old friends, and the conversations do not stay with you
- You want more connection with your family, or with anyone
- You can go a week of talking and not say one real thing
It is probably not for you if
- You genuinely have nobody. That is loneliness, and it deserves more care than a guide about something else
- You want couples counselling, mediation or dating advice
- You want to be told how to fix someone else
It is not couples counselling, family therapy, mediation, a dating service or any kind of relationship advice service, and it will not pretend to be.
Who you will be talking to
On paper, I will not suit everyone. In person, I seem to do well. I am a former headhunter, not a doctor, a therapist or a guru. I spent nearly twenty years sitting across a table from men at the moment their lives were changing, and the job was to listen properly and tell them the honest thing, even when it was not what they came in for.
This site is the nearest I can get to that table, for any man anywhere in the world. The replies come from an SI (super intelligence) guide that works from my notes and my voice. It is not me typing, and it will never pretend to be.
If you want a polished brochure, a ten-step plan, or somebody to tell you that you are right, I am probably not your man. If you want somebody straight with you, who will not flatter you and will not panic on your behalf, pull up a chair.
Still here?
Then this is probably your place. Say where you are, in your own words, and take it one question at a time.
Written by James Roberts, with help from AI.